Showing posts with label Quiverfull. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Quiverfull. Show all posts

Monday, March 27, 2017

Pastor Waxes Poetic About the Amish, Calls for More Childbearing

Peter Witkowski, associate pastor of preschool and children at the First Baptist Church in Eastman, Georgia, recently wrote a commentary piece about how to shore up declining evangelical Christian numbers. In a March 17th post at the Family Research Council blog, Witkowski argued that Christians should emulate the Amish by raising large families, doubling down on Christian instruction for children, and "protecting" children from the supposedly pernicious influence of "the world".

Witkowski approvingly cited a population study by the Young Center for Anabaptist and Pietist Studies showing that the Amish population has increased 18% over the past five years (more here).  He contrasted Amish population growth with declining Southern Baptist Convention membership. The culprit for these developments was breeding patterns among the Amish and Southern Baptists, with Amish couples having an average of 6.8 children compared to Southern Baptist couples' 2.1 children. Moreover, Amish retain most of their children in the faith, while children raised in evangelical homes are increasingly abandoning their natal faith as adults.

Witkowski interprets these trends to mean that evangelical Christians must breed more children if they want their faith communities to survive. He urged evangelical Christians to reproduce prolifically, even if they must sacrifice "traveling, nice homes, and our own tranquility" to do so.
"These numbers show that evangelism is not the major failing of our local SBC and evangelical churches. Our problem has everything to do with our view of children and the family. Churches that do not have members having children will not succeed.

Now, every Christian does not have to embrace the "19 Kids and Counting" lifestyle. Christ is still our ultimate goal and not family size. But, we must begin to revive pro-family values in our churches. Being pro-family goes well past having a catchy kids’ program. We need to celebrate birth. We need to praise parents for having big families instead of chastising them with snide comments. We need to come to the point where we value kids more than traveling, nice homes, and our own tranquility. We need to live as if children are a blessing."
No, parents should not raise large families if doing so would plunge them into poverty. People are entitled to make sound financial decisions, including the decision to have a small family or no children at all. The "tranquility" that comes from knowing where money for the electric bill will come from is called a good quality of life, and it has a profound impact on one's mental and physical health. No one should consign themselves and their children to a life of deprivation just because a pastor wants to boost church membership.

Prolific reproduction was only part of Witkowski's equation. Parents must also submerge their children in evangelical Christian culture, he claimed, so as to counteract the influence of "the world" which "evangelizes our kids 7 days a week" with "dangerous doctrines".
"And then, we need to commit to training our kids. We need to organize our families around the Gospel. We need to have intentional times of family worship. We must realize that going to church twice a week or twice a month will not provide our kids with an adequate religious framework. We must realize that the world evangelizes our kids 7 days a week. We must do the same. And we must intentionally find ways to protect our kids from the dangerous doctrines of the world and find ways to train them in righteousness."
Do any of these strategies sound familiar? I can think of one evangelical subculture that pressures couples to breed prolifically so as to increase Christian numbers, shelters children through hyper-Christian upbringing, and demonizes the outside world as a dangerous and contaminating influence: Quiverfull. Even if Witkowski doesn't use the terms "Quiverfull" or "Christian Patriarchy Movement" in his commentary piece, the strategy he describes is Quiverfull in everything but name.

If more evangelicals use these strategies to promote growth and retention in their faith communities, we can expect harm to befall women and children. For too many women, life in the Quiverfull subculture means patriarchal subjugation, health problems from repeated pregnancies, and spiritual trauma, as multiple ex-Quiverfull bloggers can attest. For too many children, life in that subculture is one of insularity, parental domination, and indoctrination as they are raised to be torchbearers for their parents. The existence of abuse in the Quiverfull subculture is well-known, thanks to the high-profile scandals involving Josh Duggar, Doug Philips, and Bill Gothard. The Quiverfull/Christian Patriarchy Movement subculture shows us that using women as brood mares, raising children as human tools, and isolating families in insular communities creates suffering. No amount of growth or retention justifies so much human suffering.

The implications of Witkowski admiration for the Amish are unsettling. The reason why the Amish retain so many people born into their culture is because it's very difficult to leave (not unlike Quiverfull). Someone raised in insular Amish society may not know what options are available to them in the "English" world. Even the practice of rumspringa only gives Amish youth a short, superficial taste of the outside world. Unless they have loved ones living outside Amish society, they would have no support system or mentors if they left. With little education or money, how could they build a life for themselves without that support? Under those conditions, is it any wonder that most Amish youth stay within their natal culture? While some disaffected Amish people do leave, they are in the minority.

Let's not forget that insular, patriarchal societies where women are expected to breed prolifically are not automatically safe places for families. No matter how much Witkowski wants to label the Amish  "pro-family", the reality is that child abuse and rape culture exist in Amish communities, just as they do in the "English" world. Insularity and patriarchy do not prevent these evils, but only make it more difficult for victims to seek help. If evangelicals truly want to be "pro-family", they should focus on preventing and addressing family violence instead of making their faith communities more insular and fecund.

This kind of culture may help the Amish community retain members, but it comes at the cost of self-determination and individual flourishing. This is not something that evangelical Christians should emulate for the sake of stabilizing their numbers. The Amish insularity and fecundity that Witkowski praises could easily produce Quiverfull scenarios if cross-bred with evangelical Christianity. Furthermore, these strategies would do a disservice to women and children in those communities.

Southern Baptists and other denominations hemorrhaging members should either accept their declining numbers, or address the reasons why members are leaving. Urging believers to breed prolifically and raise children in sheltered, hyper-Christian environments to shore up denominational membership will only result in misery.


Sunday, August 23, 2015

Commentary Tidbits

Boing Boing: Rules for Bible Class

Love, Joy, Feminism: Bill Gothard Explains Road Safety (aka How Not to Get Raped)

Salon: Secrets of the extreme religious right: Inside the frightening world of Christian Reconstructionism

Raw Story: Children as property: The common root of religious child abuse and the pro-life movement

The Guardian: Mike Huckabee blunders his way through Israel press conference 

The Daily Beast: How The Duggars’ Church Encourages Young Women To ‘Submit’

Huffington Post: Conservative Christians Are Still Fighting Gay Marriage, But It's An Uphill Battle Against The Courts

Daily Xtra: Why Korea’s Christian churches are leading the anti-gay charge

Daylight Atheism: Jewish Fundamentalism Is Poisoning Israel


Josh Duggar Had Account with Ashley Madison Dating Website



Scandals involving the Duggar family just keep piling up. Earlier this year, In Touch Magazine reported that Josh Duggar was named as an "alleged offender" in a child sexual abuse probe, and that his parents waited more than a year to contact law enforcement. Josh Duggar later resigned from his position as executive director of Family Research Council Action. Former Arkansas governor Mike Huckabee defended the family, but their reputation was already in tatters. TLC eventually canceled the Duggar's reality show, 19 Kids and Counting, and announced plans to air a documentary on child sexual abuse in the wake of the scandal. Now, Josh Duggar is at the center of another sex scandal.

On August 19th, Gawker reported that Josh Duggar had a paid account with Ashley Madison, a dating website devoted to extramarital affairs. According to Gawker, hackers accessed client data from Ashley Madison's servers and released the data online. The hack revealed that someone used the website with a credit card in Josh Duggar's name and a billing addressed that matched his grandmother's home in Fayetteville, Arkansas. The subscription was maintained from February 2013 to May 2015.

Shortly after the Ashley Madison revelation came to light, Josh Duggar released a statement through his parents' website. In the statement, Josh Duggar confessed to a secret pornography "addiction" that supposedly played a role in how he "became unfaithful" to his wife. Not long thereafter, the original statement disappeared and was replaced by a shorter, scrubbed version that made no mention of pornography. Fortunately, Spiritual Sounding Board posted screen captures of the original statement, which reads as follows:
Statement from Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar:

Please see the statement below from our son Josh regarding recent media stories about him. When we learned of this late last night our hearts were broken. As we continue to place our trust in God we ask for your prayers for Josh, Anna, our grandchildren and our entire family.

Statement from Josh Duggar:

I have been the biggest hypocrite ever. While espousing faith and family values, I have secretly over the last several years been viewing pornography on the internet and this became a secret addiction and I became unfaithful to my wife.

I am so ashamed of the double life that I have been living and am grieved for the hurt, pain and disgrace my sin has caused my wife and family, and most of all Jesus and all those who profess faith in Him.

I brought hurt and a reproach to my family, close friends, and the fans of our show with my actions that happened when I was 14-15 years old, and now I have rebroken that trust.

The last few years, while publicly stating I was fighting against immorality in our country, in my heart I had allowed Satan to build a fortress that no one knew about.

As I am learning the hard way, we have the freedom to choose to our actions, but we do not get to choose our consequences. I deeply regret all hurt I have caused so many by being such a bad example.

I humbly ask for your forgiveness. Please pray for my precious wife Anna and our family during this time."
Now, the family's website features a shorter statement, which reads as follows:
Statement from Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar:

Please see the statement below from our son Josh regarding recent media stories about him. When we learned of this late last night our hearts were broken. As we continue to place our trust in God we ask for your prayers for Josh, Anna, our grandchildren and our entire family.

Statement from Josh Duggar:

I have been the biggest hypocrite ever. While espousing faith and family values, I have been unfaithful to my wife.

I am so ashamed of the double life that I have been living and am grieved for the hurt, pain and disgrace my sin has caused my wife and family, and most of all Jesus and all those who profess faith in Him.

I have brought hurt and a reproach to my family, close friends and the fans of our show with my actions.

The last few years, while publicly stating I was fighting against immorality in our country I was hiding my own personal failures.

As I am learning the hard way, we have the freedom to choose our actions, but we do not get to choose our consequences. I deeply regret all the hurt I have caused so many by being such a bad example.

I humbly ask for your forgiveness. Please pray for my precious wife Anna and our family during this time.
Why was the statement scrubbed? Why were references to pornography, Satan, and the molestation scandal removed? Did the Duggars realize that their fundamentalist Christian lingo would fail to resonate with the public? Did a lawyer insist that they to remove some of the content? I'm baffled.

The original statement is revealing in many ways. First, some of Josh Duggar's original language deflects responsibility away from him. His claims that Satan built a fortress in his heart and that he "became unfaithful" to his wife distract viewers from the fact that he made the choice to sign up for an Ashley Madison account.

Second, the reference to pornography addiction offers us insight to how some fundamentalist Christians understand infidelity. In some fundamentalist circles, pornography consumption is lumped together with other sexual sins under the category of "lust". When one realizes that some fundamentalists see porn consumption and adultery as morally equivalent sexual sins, or blame infidelity on lust inflamed by porn, the passage begins to make sense. This does not mean that the two acts are actually morally equivalent, nor does it absolve Josh Duggar of responsibility for his actions.

In both statements, Josh Duggar at least acknowledges the hypocrisy of his family values crusade with FRC Action. The hypocrisy of a man who condemned LGBTQ people for their alleged sexual immorality while cheating on his wife cannot be overstated. As with so many other Religious Right figures whose sexual sins came to light, Josh Duggar lectured others about the sanctity of heterosexual marriage while failing to hold himself to the same standards.

In the middle of this humiliating scandal is Anna, Josh's wife. An anonymous source told People Magazine that Josh's wife, Anna, has no plans to divorce her husband. Given how the Duggar's Quiverfull/Christian Patriarchy subculture loathes divorce and places great emphasis on a wife's submission to her husband, this rumor is not surprising. Moreover, without money of her own, job experience, or loved ones outside of the Christian Patriarchy subculture, divorce would be daunting for Anna. We can only hope that Anna's loved ones are showing her love and support, rather than scapegoating her for the adultery, as some fundamentalists are wont to do.

The sex scandals involving Josh Duggar, Bill Gothard, and Doug Phillips serve as ugly reminders that the Quiverfull/Christian Patriarchy subculture cannot deliver on its promises. A movement that promises its adherents sexual purity, virtuous families, and stable marriages has been marred by scandals involving infidelity, abusive behavior, and horrid family secrets. A movement that promises godly husbands to women in exchange for submission has given them entitled, predatory men instead. What other scandals will emerge from this toxic subculture?


To read additional commentary, visit the following links.

Love, Joy, Feminism: Josh Duggar Spent Nearly $1000 to Cheat on His Wife

The Daily Beast: Is Josh Duggar the Biggest Family-Values Hypocrite Ever? Not Even Close

No Longer Quivering: Here Are 5 Misogynistic, Christian ‘Family Values’ Taught to Hypocrite Josh Duggar

No Longer Quivering: Will Anna Duggar Be Offered As The Next Live Sacrifice To Save The Duggar Family? Scapegoating, Spread Your Legs Theology And The Modern Molech


Wednesday, August 12, 2015

News Tidbits

Reuters: Heavily armed "Oath Keepers" inject new unease to riot-hit Ferguson

Daily Mail: New Zealand: Inside the creepy world of Gloriavale

The Guardian: U.S. Catholic fossil fuel investments at odds with pope's climate push 

Religion News Service: BYU, other Christian schools ranked among the least LGBT-friendly campuses

Talking Points Memo: Board: Ohio Judges Can't Refuse To Marry Gay Couples On Personal Grounds

KFVS 12: 92-year-old woman kicked out of church for not tithing


Commentary Tidbits

Infidel753: It's not just Trump -- they're all dangerous

Kiwi Mormon: Gloriavale and the Mormons: What New Zealand’s latest religious drama has to teach us 

No Longer Quivering: New Zealand Patriarchal Quiverfull Cult

Homeschoolers Anonymous: Created to Be His Doormat 

Gay Star News: Gay teen attacked by family in viral video a year ago adjusting to life on his own

Wall of Separation: ‘Abstinence-Only’ Programs Still Fail Public School Students

Addicting Info: Michelle Duggar Can’t Handle Parental Responsibility, Discovers Why Having 19 Kids Was A Bad Idea


Sunday, July 19, 2015

TLC Cancels "19 Kids and Counting"



The Duggar family has been reeling from a media firestorm over Josh Duggar's reported sexual abuse of children, including several of his sisters, as a teenage boy (more here). Public outrage mounted after details emerged of Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar's poor response to the abuse and their misguided attempts at damage control.

The Learning Channel (TLC) pulled the Duggar's reality show, 19 Kids and Counting, off the air in May shortly after the scandal broke. Now, TLC has officially canceled the show after a 10-season run, according to Talking Points Memo. Christian Today reports that fans have launched a petition to reinstate the show.

The Duggar family responded to the cancellation in a July 16th statement at their website, in which they insist that the family "overcame" the "terrible situation" of Josh's abuse.
"With God’s grace and help Josh, our daughters and our entire family overcame a terrible situation, found healing and a way forward. We are so pleased with the wonderful adults they have all become.

It is our prayer that the painful situation our family went through many years ago can point people toward faith in God and help others who also have lived through similar dark situations to find help, hope and healing, as well."
Once again, the Duggar's message seems to be "oh, it's in the past, everybody's moving forward". Given how Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar failed to grasp the gravity of the abuse, and given how their Quiverfull subculture silences and denigrates females, I highly doubt that Josh's female victims "found healing and a way forward".

I admit, I feel schadenfreude over the Duggar gravy train coming to a screeching halt. Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar promote a Quiverfull subculture that does a grave disservice to women and children. To boot, Michelle actively fought against equal rights for LGBTQ people through a transphobic robocall campaign. Finally, Jim Bob and Michelle failed to grasp the gravity of Josh's abusive behavior, failing to protect their daughters or get their son professional help after his abuse came to light. For so many reasons, I'm disgusted by the couple's choices, and I'm pleased that they're finally facing consequences for their actions.


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TLC will be exploring the issue of child abuse after the 19 Kids and Counting fiasco. In an online statement, TLC observed that "the recent attention around the Duggars has sparked a critical and important conversation about child protection." As part of this public conversation, TLC is collaborating with two victims rights organizations -- the Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network (RAINN) and Darkness to Light -- to create a child sexual abuse awareness campaign. In a baffling move, TLC and its partners are working with the Duggar family to create a documentary on childhood abuse, which is expected to air later this summer.

My feelings about TLC's decisions are mixed. First, why did TLC wait this long to cancel 19 Kids and Counting? In my opinion, TLC should have canceled the show once it became clear that Jim Bob and Michelle completely mishandled the sexual abuse revelations in their household. Was TLC hoping that the scandal would blow over, allowing them to continue reaping profit off the show? When did they finally realize that the Duggars were a liability, and that the scandal was dragging the network's reputation through the mud? While I'm relieved that 19 Kids and Counting is off the air, I think TLC should have taken action sooner.

Second, while I applaud TLC's collaboration with RAINN and Darkness to Light, I question their decision to include the Duggars in an upcoming documentary about child abuse. Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar responded to their son's abusive behavior in all the wrong ways, making them the poster children for what parents of sexually abusive youth should not do. I hope that the documentary does not feature Jim Bob or Michelle or hold up their actions as an example of what parents should do.

When Josh Duggar's sisters/victims appear in the documentary, will they feel free to speak their minds, or will they feel pressured by their subculture to defend their brother and downplay the abuse? If the latter, I worry what message this will send to other sexual abuse victims. As Elizabeth Esther argues at Time, Jill and Jessa Duggar cannot offer victims a useful model for recovery because they are still being victimized by their fundamentalist subculture. The world of Quiverfull Christianity, purity culture, and Bill Gothard in which the sisters are immersed gives males power over females, silences women and children, and promotes toxic ideas about sexuality. In short, it does not provide abuse victims with tools for healing, and may even exacerbate abuse. The documentary must stress that sexual abuse is a serious matter, victims are not obligated to forgive their perpetrators, and no one should sweep abuse under the rug.

The content of TLC's child abuse documentary remains to be seen. However, I hope their collaborators can help them create a documentary that condemns abuse and champions victims. That would be a welcome act of contrition from the network.


To read additional commentary, visit the following links.

Think Progress: TLC Waited Two Months After Josh Duggar’s Sexual Abuse Came To Light To Cancel ‘19 Kids’

The Daily Beast: The Duggars' Road to Ruin

USA Today: Timeline of Duggar Sex Abuse Scandal


Saturday, June 13, 2015

Vyckie Garrison on the Quiverfull Movement and the Duggars



Vyckie Garrison is a former Quiverfull devotee who abandoned fundamentalism. She passionately speaks out against the toxic teachings of the Quiverfull movement at her blog, No Longer Quivering. After accepting the 2014 Atheist of the Year award from American Atheists, she was interviewed for a recent Friendly Atheist podcast. Yesterday, the Thinking Atheist posted a YouTube video in which Garrison talks about Quiverfull life and the Duggars. Check it out!


Thursday, May 21, 2015

Josh Duggar Resigns from FRC After Sexual Abuse Exposé



The Duggars, stars of the TLC reality show 19 Kids and Counting, have long projected the image of a wholesome fundamentalist Christian family. Now, that image has been shattered by shocking reports of child sexual abuse.

On May 19th, In Touch Weekly reported that a police report named Josh Duggar as an "alleged offender" in a sexual abuse probe when Josh was still a teenager. Jim Bob Duggar, Josh's father, reportedly brought Josh into to the Arkansas State Police to report his son's abusive behavior. In Touch claims that the state trooper who took the report failed to follow up, and was later convicted on child sexual abuse image charges himself.

Today, In Touch offered even more details from a Springdale, Arkansas police report. According to the In Touch exposé, Josh Duggar was investigated for multiple acts of sexual abuse against five minors.

If the In Touch exposé is correct, Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar handled their son's predatory behavior poorly. Jim Bob reportedly knew about Josh's predations as early as 2002 but failed to contact the authorities, In Touch reports. The magazine states that Josh's abusive behavior continued, and in 2003, Jim Bob met with his church's elders, who also failed to alert law enforcement. Jim Bob and the church elders reportedly agreed to send Josh to a counseling program, but Michelle later told police that Josh had merely stayed with a family friend.

According to In Touch, The Duggar family was scheduled to appear on the Oprah Winfrey Show in 2006. When Harpo Studios received an e-mail about Josh's reported sexual abuse, staff faxed the letter to the Department of Human Services, leading to an investigation by police in Springdale, Arkansas. Police interviewed several of the victims in late 2006. Unfortunately, police could not pursue charges because the case's statute of limitations had expired.

The Duggar family has posted a message on Facebook regarding the scandal. Jim Bob and Michelle refer to Josh's alleged sexual abuse as "bad mistakes", but had little to say about the victims. (Hat tip to People Magazine.)
"Back 12 years ago our family went through one of the most difficult times of our lives. When Josh was a young teenager, he made some very bad mistakes and we were shocked. We had tried to teach him right from wrong. That dark and difficult time caused us to seek God like never before. Even though we would never choose to go through something so terrible, each one of our family members drew closer to God. We pray that as people watch our lives they see that we are not a perfect family. We have challenges and struggles everyday. It is one of the reasons we treasure our faith so much because God’s kindness and goodness and forgiveness are extended to us — even though we are so undeserving. We hope somehow the story of our journey — the good times and the difficult times — cause you to see the kindness of God and learn that He can bring you through anything."
Josh Duggar apologized for his "wrongdoing" in the statement, claiming that he sought forgiveness from his victims.
"Twelve years ago, as a young teenager I acted inexcusably for which I am extremely sorry and deeply regret. I hurt others, including my family and close friends. I confessed this to my parents who took several steps to help me address the situation. We spoke with the authorities where I confessed my wrongdoing and my parents arranged for me and those affected by my actions to receive counseling. I understood that if I continued down this wrong road that I would end up ruining my life. I sought forgiveness from those I had wronged and asked Christ to forgive me and come into my life. I would do anything to go back to those teen years and take different actions. In my life today, I am so very thankful for God’s grace, mercy and redemption."
Josh Duggar has since resigned from his position as executive director of Family Research Council Action. In a terse statement at the FRC website, FRC president Tony Perkins offered few details about the situation. (UPDATED)
"Yesterday, Josh Duggar made the decision to resign his position at FRC Action as a result of previously unknown information becoming public concerning events that occurred during his teenage years. Josh believes that the situation will make it difficult for him to be effective in his work here. I believe this is the best decision for Josh and his family at this time. I would ask you to join me in praying for everyone involved."
The hypocrisy of the parties involved is breathtaking. Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar, who have a history of anti-LGBTQ activism and of demonizing LGBTQ people as predators, harbored an alleged predator in their own family. The Family Research Council, which has also fought against LGBTQ equality and cast LGBTQ people as predators, unwittingly had an alleged predator on its payroll. This scandal serves as yet another reminder that LGBTQ people aren't a threat to children; predators are.

The Josh Duggar scandal exposes the rot underneath the Duggar family's smiling, wholesome facade. Jim Bob and Michelle -- applauded by the Religious Right as the embodiment of family values -- failed to live out those values in their response to Josh's behavior. Why didn't they go to the police sooner? Why didn't they get their son professional help? Where was their concern for the victims?

The Duggars' ties to the Christian Patriarchy movement are well-known. The Quiverfull and Christian Patriarchy movements promise to exalt the family, teach children virtue, and protect children from a sinful outside world. If Bill Gothard, Doug Phillips, and now Josh Duggar are any indication, these ideologies do not guarantee healthy families. Instead, by celebrating male dominance, promoting unhealthy ideas about sexuality, and demanding unquestioning obedience from children, they make children even more vulnerable to abuse. Separating families from "the world" won't make children any safer, but it will make it more difficult for young abuse victims to seek help.

I regret that it took this long for the Josh Duggar case to come to light. What the Duggar family does next, whether TLC continues to air their show, and whether the victims find healing remains to be seen.



To read additional commentary, visit the following links.

Politicus USA: Demand That TLC Cancel 19 Kids And Counting After Josh Duggar Admits To Molesting Girls

Love, Joy, Feminism: What You Need to Know about the Josh Duggar Police Report

Danthropology: Josh Duggar admits to molestation accusations and resigns from Family Research Council

Freak Out Nation: Josh Duggar: God Has Forgiven Me for Molesting Young Girls